I was cleaning my room and packing for college yesterday when I found some papers of mine from around six months ago. One had a couple paragraphs; the other, maybe five or six. They were simple, honest paragraphs I’d written for what I hoped to turn into a book about my journeys of life and faith. These paragraphs reflected a simple truth about me, one you’d have to read between the lines to find:
I believe in brutal honesty.
Brutal honesty with yourself, with God, when the times calls for it with people as well. If you’re not being honest with yourself, you’re deluding yourself into believing lies, which you start to live, which cheats everyone you interact with of a good relationship with you. If you’re not being honest with God, you’re cheating yourself of a relationship with Him. Face it: He already knows the truth, so you trying to pretend He doesn’t is only ruining your life. If you’re not being honest with others, you’re again cheating them of a good relationship with you.
What does brutal honesty mean? To me, it signifies acknowledging your shortcomings. You admit that you’re not all that, that you don’t have all the answers, that there’s this longing inside of you for something you can’t even hardly identify, it goes so deep. Whatever you feel you have to hide comes out in the open. You are you. The end. No ifs, ands, or buts. The mask comes off now. You acknowledge your flaws, your imperfections, your shortcomings–and your beauty. Your worth. Your incalculable value.
You’re not just saying you’ve realized you’re a very small part of the very big plan a impossibly large God has for humanity, you’re acknowledging that for some strange and thoroughly unfathomable reason, He actually considers you a vital part to that plan. If you let Him, that is. And even if you didn’t contribute anything to the plan, He still values you highly. You take off the blinders to both the ugliness of your sin and the beauty of who you were made to be.
That, to me, is brutal honesty. And that is what I believe in, wholeheartedly. With what will you be brutally honest today?