It reminded me of a list I made years ago in one of my journals of reasons I’m glad I’m single. I set aside four pages to come back and add to that list as I thought of reasons, and for years afterward, I would come back, set down a reason, reread the list, and thank God.
Beka asked me about specific verses that had helped me as I’ve struggled with singleness and honestly, I can’t say there are any. I never recalled Scripture in particular as I battled. I just remembered that God had my fullest life at the forefront of His mind as He guided me through these years of not dating.
Last Sunday, my pastor called out the myth of marriage as fulfillment as one of the lies the world (and so. many. Christians!) tells us. “Jesus wasn’t married, and He was a complete human being,” he said, and I have never wanted to stamp my foot and yell, “Praise the Lawd!” more than I did in that moment. That’s what I’ve had to tell myself over and over again, because in my experience, I’ve been the only one saying it.
After calling out singleness as lack as the lie it is, my pastor said, “He is our portion.” Those words have stuck with me, and when I read the second installment of SRT’s Hymns study last Tuesday, they were reinforced to the point of branding on my heart.
Day 2 of Hymns drew from Psalm 16:1-11, but it’s verses 5 through 11 that impressed themselves upon me:
The Lord is my chosen portion and my cup;you hold my lot.
The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places;indeed, I have a beautiful inheritance.
I bless the Lord who gives me counsel;in the night also my heart instructs me.
I have set the Lord always before me;because he is at my right hand, I shall not be shaken.Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices;my flesh also dwells secure.For you will not abandon my soul to Sheol,or let your holy one see corruption.
You make known to me the path of life;in your presence there is fullness of joy;at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.
The joy and confidence of this passage is contagious. I’m adopting it as my banner of faith in God, that He will neither forsake me nor fail me. Singleness does not mean brokenness, and regardless of where they are found together or separate, our God is faithful to provide what we lack, for He is our strength and our Savior.
Is there a Scripture that bolsters your faith in the midst of the battle? I’d love to know what it is!